Our past

Dearest ML,

Thanks for sharing your story with me on whatsapp earlier.

There are a few points I'd like to get back to you in more details on your story.

1. We all have some unpleasant personal history that we hope it may be erased by pressing a button or using an eraser. It can be a nude topless photo in bath tub while we were a kid, or a really ugly photo in an incredibly ugly outfit / haircut (or both), or some dishonest cheating in schools or some harsh comments we made knowingly or unknowingly to our friends, or some inglorious stupid mistakes that we made.

For me,  it is all of the above.

I think it is important to accept what happened without any prejudice or anger or regret. It is simply a (small) chapter in the journey of life, and there is no need to be too concerned about it.

The important part is to learn from our mistake. 

Only when we are able to completely accept we are for who we are and accept what happened without shame and guilt, we will be able to move on.

2. You mentioned some girlfriends did not like you. For whatever reasons behind this, again this is inevitable. Some people dislike you because you are dumb, because you are mean, because you are sweaty and stink, because you are overweight, or because you are smart and beautiful and everyone likes you.

We are not exactly in a beauty pageant competition running for Ms Friendly crown. It is just fairly common that some people dislike others or do not get along well, and there is no need to be too concerned about it.

3. As far as dating situation goes, what if some of his friends do not like you? The answer is fairly simple. Remember who you are dating with: him or his friends?

As long as you did nothing wrong, you live by your conscience, morals, standards and values, I think this is pretty sufficient.

How others see you is irrelevant, it is how you see yourself that counts more.


k  xoxo