Respect, Manner and Courtesy

Dearest ML,

This blog post is also inspired by what happened yesterday. I told a friend that I wanna meet up, and if possible meet up last night for a drinks. I wrote something else to show my invitation was sincere. The invitation was sent out the night before. He got plenty of time to respond. Of course I had no problem that he could not make it, but I thought at least even a "no" is something out of respect, manner and courtesy.

Then I was out for hiking and missed his call at 1 pm. He did not leave me any message. I whatsapp him back at 2 after my hike, and then I heard nothing from him until 20:56 that he could not make it, and with a misuse of emoticons (an unhappy look followed by a big smile).

I got "furious" and replied in my whatsapp to show my disappointment and how I felt. Originally I thought if I over-reacted. Then I told my male friend about this, he said "Girl, you are venting. I would do the same too. I am not to be ignored and anyone to stand me up flat. Sorry. Next bus please unless he apologizes and makes up for it"

And guess what? I never heard from him since then. To make it clear I am not upset he cannot make it, but he could have told me earlier so that I can make my own plans.

Then I figure this is something really important apart from the way we look: it is the way we act, and the way we treat people with respect.

In short: respect, manner and courtesy. This is something even more important than the look.

Then I realized with M... He's the one who will never throw me under the bus. He is the one to treat me with respect and courtesy. He acts whatever he promises, from tiny issue like "I will come to the airport by 330 pm to pick you up".

He may not have the "hot look" but he has everything else that I am expecting in a friend and partner.


k  xoxo