Make Room

ML, thanks for the meaningful post on "Make Room".

Before "making room", I think it may help to have the following mindsets (aka smart girl survival tips):

#1 - Understand that things do happen for a reason

For all the good or the bad, things do happen for a reason. For example, you are dumped by this guy so that you can meet the next (better) guy!

You are dumped by this guy so that you can learn how to identify and deal with A holes better!

Learn from it, and benefit from it. Be smart, be wise.

#2 - Cherish the good memories

We cannot make the clock turn back. What happened happened. Cherish the good memories together (even after you delete the pictures or Facebook message or emails!). What make us today is all these experiences - there is no way you can complete omit the existence of something or someone in the past. And believe me, hating someone consumes your energy. Regretting something happened wastes your energy. So why bother?

#3 - Understand the process takes time 

Yes it is going to be a painful process and it takes time. For the time being, distract yourself - have girls talk, drinks, night out or even have a new haircut or a trip!

#4 - Most importantly, understand you have a choice

We only live once and we always have a choice how to live our lives. If we may have a choice of

(A) to waste time being angry with the A hole or ourselves, or
(B) to spend the same amount of time to make ourselves more beautiful and looking more attractive both physically and mentally.

Which one will you choose?

It is always a matter of choice.

And smart girls know how to make the right choice for themselves.  Always remember : if we wanna someone to love us, we must love ourselves first.


k  xoxo