Dear ML,
During our recent Facebook message exchange, we both sadly admit we still check out our ex on the Facebook via some common friend or even their current girlfriend despite they are no longer our "friends" on the Facebook.
Today I skype with my another girlfriend S who did the same.
It brought me to one question - WHY??
Are we just being nosey?
Do we have too much time to spare?
Aren't we not getting enough hurt?
Or deep inside despite how the A hole treated us, there is still little part of us who care about the A hole, and somehow wanna stay contact with him, be friends with him regardless of the geographical distance and how long ago the broke up took place?
WHY?
Because no one can erase the memory that we had together.
Because we do not want the memory between us to fade away.
Because somehow we are still expecting the A hole to do the same despite we know the chance is zero.
I think this just marks clearly the difference between men and women: when a man breaks up with a woman, he will tend to erase everything, pretend nothing happened, pretend we never met, pretend we are transparent when meet up, and not even a HI.
When a woman breaks up, we always want / expect us to be "friends" and even start to question "why we are not friends?" and then push ourselves into such a black hole of pain and sadness.
The answer is crystal clear - some A holes are simply not good enough to be our friends, not even worthwhile to deserve any of our time and attention. And it is time for we girls to learn from men: be a man, be picky, be choosey, and move on with our lives with heads up.
k xoxo
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