Strategy, strategy, strategy

Dearest ML,

One of my theories in dating is "strategy". Here is one perfect example to illustrate, originates from an article I read on newspaper yesterday:

There is a theory in war. The real winning and losing is determined before the war itself. Those who took initiative is the losing side.  There is no doubt about it.

Today she asked him out, he can tell it is not a good thing. Last week they started dating. On the evening of the second date, he kissed her.

No rejection, but not much reaction. She just closed her eyes and stood there quietly, feeling the heat from his lips. This was a kiss that would not last long.

But since the relationship had already begun, he did not mind carrying it forward. He thought things would unwind eventually. He felt a little bit of uneasy because of another man.

He was someone whom they met on the same day in the same work related occasion. He obviously was the "better" one.

He can tell him he was not competitive, and he could also tell that she was attracted to him from the very beginning.

Things may not have happened for two person who are mutually attracted to each other. As long as nobody takes the first move, nothing will happen.

He gave sufficient time to both of them, he took initiative only when he felt like nothing would happen between them.

Things were smooth than he thought, she accepted him despite the way of expressing his admiration and love was a bit clumsy.

He can feel that she was relaxed, obviously because it marked the end of the struggle with the other he. She must have said to that guy "great, there is no need to struggle anymore with you. You are nothing!"

Today she gave him a call, saying there was something serious for discussion after work. She sounded serious.

"I told him that we started our relationship"

"What is his reaction?"

"He asked me, how come that was not me?"

"I said I never knew you liked me"

"..."

"I am sorry, we have started seeing each other."

No astonishment but only the sad loneliness from the loser.

If we step outside the box, in fact that he lost the game too. She was the mastermind.

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Such a brilliant story!

k  xoxo