After Breakup

Dearest ML,

Again another inspiration by Black so Black to share:

She once vowed to her wedding ring that she will only wear it once in her life. She will not take it off after it is put onto her finger. Even facing infidelity by her partner she will still honor the wedding vow, and never fall in love with another party.

Three years later, she felt in love with a friend who had been staying around with her for years and they formed their own family. When she vowed again, the hatred on her face disappeared.

She cried desperately asking for suicide. She cannot live without him. She was like this for 40 days after he left her. She felt like the sky has collapsed, that nobody could understand how she feels, and knowing that she cannot meet anyone who deserves her love and whom she fell in love so deeply.

Fast forward one year later, she met her current partner in volunteering. She saw there are so many things that need her help and grew mature. Love can come in again only when she opened her heart. He and she have been together, in peace. The power of love not only serves these two people, love helps in serving more people who are in need.

The love of his life betrayed him. He cannot trust any woman. Arrogance left him in hatred and negative emotions for a few years. Until one day he met someone who is simple and kind, and shines through his life like a fresh ray of light. He saw how he did not understand women, how he committed mistakes and hurt them in the past. Now he can experience love is to forgive the pain and sin in the past with a gentle loving smile. He felt enormously gracious, and learned how to love himself and others.

She loved him over a decade and never want to let go. She thought she cannot fall in love again, she is destined to be a victim and she cannot handle any hurt. At the same time, she finds herself very hard to fall in love with someone. After living in despair for 4 years, they met, fell in love and made them calm, mature and understanding. She cannot be happier.

These real stories of break up are meant to share with those who are afraid of break up. There is no inseparable relationship to begin with, except the intimate self-loving relationship. You have to give time to heal the wound, and there is no need to shut the door. You never know what sort of gift God has arranged to you after you open up yourself to experience growth.

There is no reason for you to miss this.

My thoughts:

We all have breakups. It is so rare that we will end up with only one lover in our life these days. Some relationships are longer, some are brief and short. Every relationship counts. We have to learn how to deal with break up, to learn from others and to learn how we may grow from it. It is the only way where we may minimize the pain.

We also have to learn to look forward. The best is yet to come.

k  xoxo